Wednesday, 12 August 2015

12 Steps To Getting Over A Fictional Death

Hello!

So recently I watched an episode of The Good Wife where a pretty important character was killed off. It was pretty intense for the characters on the show so the whole thing felt a thousand times worse. It got me thinking about how many times important people in books and film die unexpectedly, leaving Twitter a flurry of crying emojis (and not the laughing one). I can name at least 10 fictional deaths that have left me devastated in the past few years but this post isn't about spoilers, it's about coping when the worst does happen.

1. So it happens. You may or may not have saw it coming but either way the reality of it will be hard to stomach. I would leave about 5-10 minutes for the initial shock to subside before you take anymore steps. It's for your own safety...

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2. Stay calm. Now is not the time for drastic measures. I know it seems like a great idea to ring up Netflix or the publisher and demand that they change the plot but it probably isn't going to work. Take some deep breaths.

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3. Break out the comfort food. I would highly recommend Phish Food or Cookie Dough from Ben and Jerry's but whatever works for you is fine!

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4. Mourn for the character properly. There's no point in just trying to forget about it! For me it helps to watch the next episode or read the next chapter, usually where the other characters are coming to term with it so you can too!

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5. Talk to your friends who may understand your pain. An important step to recovery is asking for help so text your friends for support. If there is anyone who has read or watched the same thing, you should definitely talk about it so you aren't bottling up all those feelings.

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6. However you must also prepare yourself for those who will not understand. These people will feel the need to remind you that it's "not real" but getting into a rage trying to argue will only make it worse. I think, deep down, they do understand but are too afraid to show it. 

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7. Checkpoint. Are you okay yet?


8. Okay, make yourself another snack.

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9. Read some good fanfiction with that character. If you really can't deal with the end of that character's storyline, hopefully someone else has written an AU where that character is still alive. 

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10. Remember the character for all the brilliant moments and allow yourself to say goodbye. You will know when it's time to let go. 

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11. Realise that you will soon be okay and one day you'll look back on this tiny little event in your life with a smile. It's all going to be fine!

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12. Make the decision to start something new and open your heart to new characters. This is the life we've chosen.

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Have a wonderful week!
Hattie xo

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